I knew when Evie turned one year old that her days as a baby were limited. I look back at photos from just a few months ago and the ways she has grown physically and mentally are just so great. Her hair is longer. She is taller. Her vocabulary is bigger. Oh and she is starting to show signs of a temper…because she is a TODDLER. Time slow down.
Sometimes I feel like as mamas we tend to hear a lot of the “bad stuff” about parenting. “Oh just you wait!” or “You won’t be able to take them anywhere unless you do XYZ” or “Ha! You think this is hard?!” I get it, I get it. Sometimes I say things to my friends with newborns like, “take them everywhere while they just sleep!!!” But we have to remember that every phase is NEW to the new mama. That it might be daunting to take the baby out, and that’s okay. Do you ever just get tired of everyone sharing their “expertise” without being asked? I do!
Well, now that toddlerhood is among us, I feel like I lean on and look towards other moms for guidance more than ever as we enter the age of temper tantrums and tons of mental leaps within her development. But here’s the thing: guidance and comparison are two different things and I can say with 110% confidence I don’t compare Evie to others. Yes, luckily for me, I watched Nancy day by day grow so this stage isn’t super shocking to me, but, I just want to encourage you moms to step away from the comparison game for it is brutal.
You know what is awesome about our children? God designed them perfectly to be the little people they are. He gave YOU the means to raise them up with His guidance. When you feel a lack of patience, questions about their growth, frustrations, whatever…lean on HIM. For my little family, well, the days of toddlerhood are very much here, and boy, are they bittersweet for us. My heart longs for that little newborn girl, then the little 6 month old learning to sit up, but I am thankful for the little best friend I have now. The conversations Evie and I are beginning to have and the newfound fun and love we have for one another are just so special to me.
So, mamas, don’t get caught up in wondering if your baby is doing what this other baby is doing. Relish in the present. Every day is an adventure and every day is something new. Wouldn’t you be so sad to look back and think you spent time wondering what the next milestone was going to be instead of enjoying the one your baby is in right now?! I know I would.
The sign Elise gifted me at my baby shower says it perfectly: “You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they will be a little older than today. This day is a gift. Breathe and notice. Study their little faces and feet. Relish the charms of the present. Enjoy today momma. It will be gone before you know it.” – Jen Hatmaker
Unfortunately, the shop where Elise got this sign is no longer open. BUT, we have found an amazing shop, Sophistiqa, with similar work that takes custom requests so you could have one made for yourself. This sign is at the end of the hallway that we see when leaving our bedroom and Evie’s nursery. It is the perfect reminder, especially on those “mom-ing ain’t easy” days.